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Sunday, May 13, 2007


There are those who would tell you that being a mother is a boring and unfulfilling job. They are wrong. I've heard people say, disparagingly, of mothers who were proud of their children and husband, that they had nothing better in themselves of which they could be proud. Those people do not understand that her work is what made those children's (and husband's) accomplishments possible. A mother at home is shaping the minds and direction of her children, she is helping her husband do his work, giving him a reason to work hard, and creating an environment in the home that affects the attitudes and achievements of everyone in it. It is true that a good mother can have a child turn out poorly, and a bad mother can have a child overcome her parenting and do great things, but for the most part, she has a huge role in the development and direction of her family.

I sometimes have people ask me how I can stand to stay at home. Don't I hate the cleaning or the diaper changes or whatever (fill in the blank with the task you find loathesome)? Well, I don't want to make it sound like I just thrll at the possibility of a dirty diaper, or the sink full of dishes, or another load of laundry, but it is part of what keeps our home running, it is part of my job, and overall I find my job fulfilling and joyful enough that I don't mind the parts I don't care for as much. When I worked outside the home, there was certainly plenty I found annoying, monotonous or distasteful. I've worked at a yarn shop (which I love!), various childcare/daycare places (part of the reason I stay at home with my children), a children's science museum (another part of why I stay at home with my children), a Mail Boxes Etc. (now the UPS store), a dance studio, an insurance office, done yard work and descriptive writing for a mail order business. There was drudgery in all of those jobs; there were parts I disliked, and things I did only because they were paying me and I might not have my job if I didn't do them. There were also parts that I loved, and found interesting. None of them, though, not even the yarn store job, are occupations which fulfill any great calling.

I know it is out of fashion to think of motherhood as a woman's great high calling, but there is no other job in which a woman, or a man for that matter, can do which can affect the life of not only her child, but the world around her and the future of that world. Being a parent, but especially a mother, shapes how the neighborhood will be, how the town will be, how the county, state, nation will be. It is the only job that you might regret not spending enough time on when you are on your death bed. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world is not just some pithy platitude, it is a truth for which we find ample evidence these days with the way so many kids and teenagers behave and the adults who have chosen to be pals rather than their parents.

Being a mother does not always look like the noble calling it is. Rachelle wrote about that much more eloquently than I in her post yesterday. There is much trench work, and plain perserverance to get through some of the tougher or exhausting parts, but the bigger picture, the perspective I wish I always had before me, is that there is nothing more important or valuable to a child, a family, a society, than the mother at home.


Well stated Ranee! Since becoming a mom, I rank Mother's Day higher than birthdays. Why? Everyone has a birthday, but not everyone has the joy of being a Mother! May the Lord bless you on this Mother's Day to you!
I have never been sorry that I chose to stay home--not once. My kids are going to school next year and everyone is asking what I am going to do. I am going to stay right here at home--that's what. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else. Thanks for posting this.
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